Friday, October 12, 2007

Something so sad can humble you and make you realize that you're rather small in the scheme of things....



Today, I have "met" 2 Bloggers that are also Mothers and both of them have faced a loss ,that I to have. The death of a child. It matters not what the cause, the end result always grabs you the same way.... You feel for them and wonder how , you , yourself made it through this hard and sad time. It's a heart ripping time for any parent. You always think that your child will out live you but in life there are no promises or guarantees. I thought it ironic that as a parent that has faced this , that I found them or they found me but on the same day......
Twist and Skewer's Author, Janice, really has a wonderful blog that talks about her life , the ups the downs and even a bit of the dirty laundry no one usually hears. I loved her blog and spent a great deal of time just lost reading. It was heart warming and real.....

Another blogger Emailed me with a comment not wanting to bum everyone out she made it private. I just knew by the photos she sent me I had to go for a visit (here) and thats where I found 2 very real blogs although I thought that hers was a very sad story but real none the less and very heart wrenching, I enjoyed myself and felt close to her and to her brave and giving Son, Gunnar Becker. I mourn her loss also. She has dedicated her blogs to her Son and the love she has for him is abundant and open.


I have faced the losses these woman have, not in the same manner, but, the out come was quite the same , the loss of a child, or in my case children.
I can't tell you how this feels, but I don't wish you know.
I can't say It doesn't hurt, for that would be a lie.
But when a child comes into your life and heart,
The saddest thing is if you two have to part...
I invite you to visit them and to hear their stories, To even feel their pain......
People often avoid things that make them feel, I am not one of those people, I bleed red blood and I breath real air. I feel real feelings and even if I cry, I cry real tears....
Peace!

9 comments:

Hayley said...

I can't imagine the loss of a child, but am sending lots of hugs to you all the way from England.
God Bless!

debey said...

to my new found friend.....God always gives me new friends, when ineed them the most, and least susspect i'll find them.......welcome to my world(such as it is)........debey

darlene said...

this is very sasd indeed, can not even imagine...my heart goes out to all of them

AEIB said...

I know that pain SQ too.
It can not be described although people try to and they dispel some of their pain through doing it but until you experience it first hand it doesn't strike home quite as hard
God bless

Sugar Queens Dream said...

To each of you so far to comment: You are thought of and always loved. Peace!

JaniceNW said...

Queen Sugar~thanks for the linky love and the wonderful bio. I will try to live up to it! I'm adding you to my link list as well.

Hugs from one mom who knows some of the same pain as you. Megahugs!

shle3pyb4by said...

hey there... i dont even have a chance to get a child of my own yet... i am still single and yet married. :(

yeah... sorry to thosemothers out there... somehow, it is sad enough deep inside to feel a loss! :(

i might not be having the experience of losing a child, but the fact of losing someone, is truly depressing.

kudos to you for such a thoughtful mind... :)

*hugs*

Sugar Queens Dream said...

Janice, I always will think now that , we are connected in some tiny way just from loss. I know that isn't a good thought but I think life and HE brings us together in strange ways.....
hugs, Judy

Sugar Queens Dream said...

shle3pyb4by- Thanks for the kind words. I hope that when the day comes you don't have to face the worries of this as well as the pain and hurt...
peace!